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ACT LIKE A LADY, THINK LIKE A MAN

 A book presented by Steve Harvey, a book that talk more about what men really think about love, relationships, intimacy, and commitment.

Steve Harvey said that this book is dedicated to all women in this world, and he hope that this book can empower all the women with a wide-open look into the minds of men.
And I said that this book is a guidebook for all women to can get through man's world.

So, lets see what things that woman can get from this book. 👌👌

There have 3 common things from men that all women should be know..
 ~First, The mind-set of a men
 ~Second, Why men do what they do
 ~Third, How to win the game😉

Well, start from THE MINDSET OF A MEN. Generally people said that men are simple, and thats true. Woman have to know and understand a few assential truths : men are driven by who they are, what they do, and how much they make. Jadi entah pria itu seorang CEO, Manager, Polisi, kuris, Satpam, atau pekerjaan apapun yang kita ketahui, dia akan bertingkah berdasarkan 'title' yang melekat pada diri mereka. Pokoknya everything he does is filtered trhough his title (who he is), how he get his title (what he does), and reward he get for their effort (how much they makes). 3 hal ini yang selalu melekat pada setiap diri pria, bisa di katakan sperti " thesee things make up the basic DNA of manhood", dan sebelum para pria ini benar benar mencapai tujuan mereka untuk memenuhi 3 hal ini, percayalah, even itu pacar, tunangan, atau suami pun, mereka tidak akan benar2 fokus pada perempuan mereka. Mereka terus mengejar hal hal tersebut. Sampai mereka mendapatkannya and feels like they are a truly man, baru setelah itu mereka akan fokus pada perempuannya. Kenapa demikian? Yah karena being number one infront of their woman adalah keinginan setiap pria. He want his own family feel save at home when he is not at home, or eat well, sleep tight, he want his children get a good education in the school, he want his wife proud to have him as a husband, thats why para pria itu bekerja keras dan harus memenuhi 3 hal tersebut, to being number one. If they cant accomplish all three things, man will feels like a doomed. Like a looser. And its bad, you know. But all above that, they do that because they love their woman❤❤..

Talk about love, this time i'll tell you what's love from man's perspective. Depends from Steve Harvey said, man's love is not like woman's love. Their love is simple, direct, and probably a lil harder to come by. Like a man who is in love with you is probably not going to call you every hour and give you an update message every time. He is not going to sit around stroking your hair and wiping your brow with cold compresses while you sip hot tea and nurse yourself back to health. His love is still love, though. Bukan seperti woman's love, which is she'll be kind, compassionate, patient and nurturing, generous and sweet and unconditional and also pure. Like if you are her man, she'll walk on the water and through a mountain for you😂😂, she will shine you up when you're dusty, encourage you when you're down, defend you even when she is not sure you were right, and hang on your every word. And remember this, never think about perfect man, cuz it is so unrealistic.👍👍.. nahh selain 3 hal yg hrus di penuhi oleh para pria tadi, ada juga 3 hal yang di butuhkan oleh para pria. Like 3 things that every man needs are support, loyalty, and the cookie. Every man have to feel like somebody's got their back - like they are a king even they are not. And another thing that all woman have to understand is when a man go walk out through the door, all entire world is standing at the ready to beat them down. And thats make sense why man need support from their woman. The next is loyalty, yahh siapa sih yang tidak mau pasangannya setia? Well we all need the loyal one to stand by us, when he is on the up or down zone of his life, he wants his woman to keep with him, go trhough the storm. Cielahh😂😂, but thats true.. 

The last is "the cookie" or in other word you can say it is sex. No-brainer. Men gotta do what men gotta do. Ask any guy if sex is important in relationship and the one who says no is lying😂. Karena Steve Harvey said that men need sex as much as men need air. Wow. Okeyyy..

Move to second topic gengs, 

WHY MEN DO WHAT THEY DO..
When men sleep with you, what do you think? Is it just a one night stand? Or its pure act when he is in love with you? I give you some example like there is an attractive girl with nice dress, beautiful skin, preety white theeth, gorgeous body, charming smile, all in one package that every woman have. She is come close to a man, have some conversation, or maybe go get some restaurant to have dinner. All in men's mind is get all about this girl. He wants this girl to be his own at that time. He just want to sleep with this girl. Cuz man are very simple people, if they like what they see, they will come over and fight for it. But if they dont like you, yahh they will not coming over you. Simple right? Men  always want something. always. And when he comes to women, the plan is just to find out two things : (1) if you are willing to sleep with him, (2) if you are, how much it will cost to get you to sleep with him. "Cost" yang di maksud di sini merupakan seberapa banyak perhatian (attention), waktu (time), usaha (efford) yang si pria berikan atau yang si wanita butuhkan sampai akhirnya si pria berhasil membuat wanitanya takluk or he got to sleep with her. Thats all he wants. Well, kita beranjak ke tahap yang lebih tinggi yaitu how men distinguish between the marrying types and the playthings. Like sport fish vs keepers. Gini deh, ada 2 tipe pria yang hobbi mancing. They do fishing as their sport, which means he's either going to try to catch the biggest fish he can, take picture of it, admire it with his buddies, and toss it back to the sea, or they do fishing to eat at their home, which means they will scale it, fillet it, toss it in some cornmeal, fry it up, and put it on his plate. Beibh, its diferent. And this is a great analogy for how men seek out women. 😉.  If the man cath you to take to their home, so lucky you, which means he realy in love with you and gonna marrying you.
The last thing in second topic that we as a women should know is "why men cheat". Men can cheat because there are so many women willing to give themselves to a man who doesn't belong to them. But after all the mess they made, they will fight for earn your trust back to them, they will follow your words to can get back into you, they will give you a thousand flowers to get your smile back, and now its up to you, either to forgive them and not be suspicious or all make it done for lifetime. And if you willing to give him a second chance, a man who realy in love with you will do anything to make it back into the place. He will go to the church, goto the office for making money, and back home with happy face just to see his woman, and tell her how happy he is to have her.❤❤

Well gengs, here is the third topic "HOW TO WIN THE GAME"
Well as a women, we should to have a standart. Jadi para pria bisa lebih respect kalau mereka tau bahwa perempuan A punya standart seperti ini dan si perempuan B punya standart seperti ini. Mereka "man" akan respect dengan hal-hal seperti itu, dan hal ini akan membuat mereka berpikir, 'do I deserve her?' Dan secara tdak langsung mereka akan make an efford to get you as their woman. Semakin banyak efford yang mereka keluarkan utk perempuannya its mean perempuanya itu punya standart yang tinggi. And its cool. Selanjutnya ask a man who you want to date with.
1. What are you short-term goals? If you're going to get a relationship with a man,  you should know what his plans, and how they fit into the key elements that make a man -who he is, what he does, and how much he makes-. His answer also will help you as a woman to determine whether you want to be a part of his plans or not.
2. What are you long-therm goals? Trust me on this, a man who really has a vision for where he wants to see himself in ten years has looked into his futureand seriously considered what it will take for him to get there. Once you hear your potential mate's answer to question number 1 & 2, you'll have a firm understanding of the kind of man you dealing with. Do not tie your life together witj a human being who does not have a plan, because you'll find out that if he is not going anywhere, sooner or later you'll be stuck too.
3. What are your views on relationship? Even that relationship with his family, with God, and with his circumtance. All the answer will reveal a lot more about him - whether he is serious about commitment, the kind of household in which he was raised, what kind of father and husbend he might be, whether he knows the Lord, all of that.
4. What do you think about me? If he answer generally like you such a kind hearted person, beautiful, nice, and other common things like that, that means he is not put you in, but if his answer more specifics, its can give you some clue into this man's intention for your relationship and he its mean he is been listening and adding you to his world. Horayyyy😁😁😁..
5. How do you feel about me? If he answer like "i think you are cool", so dont go for more deeper into this man, its means you are not all he wants. But if the answer just make reason to stay more longer with him, why not? Pump the brakes until you are hearing and feeling from him the thing that make you think its important to hear and feel from a man you are willing to forge a relationship. 👏👏👏..

Well gengs.. why we have to act like a lady and think like a man? Go find out in this book😂 or if you know Steve Harvey, you can ask to him. Wkwkwk..
Sekian dulu yah review buku hari ini, see you in next post gengs.👋😉


~kee